A Kiss Is Still a Kiss...Or Is It More?

Ok, I watched Oprah today. There, I said it. I've been watching a little as I drink my morning coffee and write because I'm home.

Today's show was good...very good. It was about what turns women on, what's in our attraction factor, what makes us tick sexually, what's in the O for us. There were experts, actual Ph.D.s, who did scientific studies, some were men and some were women, and they discussed the biology behind passion, attraction, mate selection, keeping attraction and passion alive, and really what gets women hot. I love this topic because who doesn't love getting hot for the one they love?

As I watched the show, I kept thinking, "OMG, that's what I have been trying to communicate and that's what I've wanted, and they are saying it out loud!" It was so validating. If you're a guy, watch that episode, even if you despise Oprah or daytime talk shows geared toward women. This one is priceless.

It's so simple.

The first lesson: Women are most turned on when they are desired. Bingo! "Women want to know that you want to have sex with THEM. They know you desire sex, but when you let them know you desire sex with THEM, that takes them over the edge. That's the O." The fact is that women want sex too, but what takes ordinary sex to mind blowing sex for women is when her man pursues her, wants her, and makes that very clear...you know what I mean? It's a guaranteed O. I swear it, fellas. You show us how much you want us, we'll reciprocate your socks off and thank you for it after.

The second lesson: Kiss your lady at least once every single day, deeply, for at least 10 seconds straight. Not the kind of kiss you give your mother...save those for your Aunt Louise. No, the kind of kiss that involves your saliva. You know the kind of kiss I'm talking about. The one that leads to other things...and why does it lead to other things? Did you know that when you kiss your woman deeply, your saliva contains testosterone that is transferred into her bloodstream via her mouth, and it increases her libido? If you think your lover isn't feeling it as often as you'd like her to, or if you would like her to be a little more interactive in the process...a little more into you...a little more adventurous, try planting a good one on her for ten long seconds or more and see what that does for you? I bet she finds that the mood strikes her a little more easily, and then she'll be more likely to give you what you need and want. In fact, do that once a day for a while and see if it doesn't transform your "routine." What have you got to lose?

There was more to the show. They talked about biological attraction by scent and saliva and how birth control pills can affect a woman's ability to choose the right mate for reproduction purposes, etc, but these are the things that really concerned heating up your love life if you already found the one.

I got to thinking how might this all relate to the law of attraction. Hmmm...

If you are a man and you want your lady to have more enthusiasm about getting under the covers with you and pleasing you and telling you what a wonderful lover you are and how much she wants you, the law of attraction says you get back what you are putting out to the Universe. You will get what you can give to someone else. So...if you can show your sweetheart just how much you desire her by pursuing her and kissing her passionately, you just might attract into your relationship a more passionate, engaging, eager to please you and more easily pleased partner...the one you already have lying right next to you.

If you are a woman and you would like a little of this in your direction from the man you love, it's ok to ask him to kiss you. The Universe responds when you ask for what you want. Ask and it is given, right? Start out with that. Ask him if he'll kiss you every day. How could he say no to the woman he loves? See what that does for you and for him.

A kiss is much more than a kiss. It's the opening of a whole new world of passion and exploration for your love life. Explore with the object of your affection and let me know if Oprah's show was right.