Wordle Creations

One of my coaching friends introduced me to Wordle.net. If you go there, you can create one of these very neat word images about any topic or a jumble of topics. I scooped up text from my coaching website here:



And this one is from my "about you" page on my site. I think I can do better than this:



And this is kind of neat. It's the "about me" page on my site. What a way to create a collage about yourself and see where you could do less of something or more of it, or at least mention it less or more:



And I really like this one. It's from my last post on the power of kissing. How juicy is this?



I could play all day with that. Try it. Have fun. Oh, and I'm supposed to credit www.wordle.net with those images created from my content. :)

A Kiss Is Still a Kiss...Or Is It More?

Ok, I watched Oprah today. There, I said it. I've been watching a little as I drink my morning coffee and write because I'm home.

Today's show was good...very good. It was about what turns women on, what's in our attraction factor, what makes us tick sexually, what's in the O for us. There were experts, actual Ph.D.s, who did scientific studies, some were men and some were women, and they discussed the biology behind passion, attraction, mate selection, keeping attraction and passion alive, and really what gets women hot. I love this topic because who doesn't love getting hot for the one they love?

As I watched the show, I kept thinking, "OMG, that's what I have been trying to communicate and that's what I've wanted, and they are saying it out loud!" It was so validating. If you're a guy, watch that episode, even if you despise Oprah or daytime talk shows geared toward women. This one is priceless.

It's so simple.

The first lesson: Women are most turned on when they are desired. Bingo! "Women want to know that you want to have sex with THEM. They know you desire sex, but when you let them know you desire sex with THEM, that takes them over the edge. That's the O." The fact is that women want sex too, but what takes ordinary sex to mind blowing sex for women is when her man pursues her, wants her, and makes that very clear...you know what I mean? It's a guaranteed O. I swear it, fellas. You show us how much you want us, we'll reciprocate your socks off and thank you for it after.

The second lesson: Kiss your lady at least once every single day, deeply, for at least 10 seconds straight. Not the kind of kiss you give your mother...save those for your Aunt Louise. No, the kind of kiss that involves your saliva. You know the kind of kiss I'm talking about. The one that leads to other things...and why does it lead to other things? Did you know that when you kiss your woman deeply, your saliva contains testosterone that is transferred into her bloodstream via her mouth, and it increases her libido? If you think your lover isn't feeling it as often as you'd like her to, or if you would like her to be a little more interactive in the process...a little more into you...a little more adventurous, try planting a good one on her for ten long seconds or more and see what that does for you? I bet she finds that the mood strikes her a little more easily, and then she'll be more likely to give you what you need and want. In fact, do that once a day for a while and see if it doesn't transform your "routine." What have you got to lose?

There was more to the show. They talked about biological attraction by scent and saliva and how birth control pills can affect a woman's ability to choose the right mate for reproduction purposes, etc, but these are the things that really concerned heating up your love life if you already found the one.

I got to thinking how might this all relate to the law of attraction. Hmmm...

If you are a man and you want your lady to have more enthusiasm about getting under the covers with you and pleasing you and telling you what a wonderful lover you are and how much she wants you, the law of attraction says you get back what you are putting out to the Universe. You will get what you can give to someone else. So...if you can show your sweetheart just how much you desire her by pursuing her and kissing her passionately, you just might attract into your relationship a more passionate, engaging, eager to please you and more easily pleased partner...the one you already have lying right next to you.

If you are a woman and you would like a little of this in your direction from the man you love, it's ok to ask him to kiss you. The Universe responds when you ask for what you want. Ask and it is given, right? Start out with that. Ask him if he'll kiss you every day. How could he say no to the woman he loves? See what that does for you and for him.

A kiss is much more than a kiss. It's the opening of a whole new world of passion and exploration for your love life. Explore with the object of your affection and let me know if Oprah's show was right.

How Do You Know If She's "The One?"

I read a really shallow article today about finding the right mate, or knowing when a girl is the girl you should marry. I despise articles like these, because while they seem to mean well and they often have some nugget of truth and wisdom to them, they usually oversimplify and impose their values or some silly set of rules on the masses. I prefer to think for myself and the older I get, the more I prefer to follow my own set of values.

Here's the article, if you'd like to read it for reference:

Should You Marry Her?

As I mentioned, the article does point out some helpful standards one might value, such as she has her own hobbies and allows you to have yours, or she sometimes disagrees with you because she also has a mind of her own, and she has some ambition, to name a few. However, not every man has the same set of values or the same list of qualities he'd like in a mate. Just as not every woman does. We all have within ourselves the wisdom to formulate our own list based upon our own values, boundaries and standards. It is important that we go through that process ourselves instead of having a staff writer for MSN Lifestyle tell us what the list should look like.

The other bone I have to pick with the article is that it is very "me" centered. It focuses on what the woman has to offer to the man. It doesn't take into account compatibilities or give and take. There are two dangers in this approach, in my opinion. First, a guy who might read this and actually think it's the gold standard in evaluating whether he should marry his girl might actually think that only his interests and needs and time and wallet matter. The author tries to hint that a woman who pays at least sometimes could be a good indication that she'll be reciprocal in other ways in the relationship. However, there is no mention of the ways in which both parties can reciprocate, outside of the financial realm, and there is no mention of the ways she may already reciprocate financially even if she didn't buy dinner out. Second, what really scares me about articles like these are the women out there who may read it and then think they have to mold themselves to these rules or they'll never win the prize.

I have news for you, sweetie, you are the prize. The right guy will see that and appreciate you for who you are. You can start the process of attracting a man who will appreciate who you are by appreciating yourself, loving yourself, and respecting yourself. You can also make your own list of qualities and traits that you find valuable in a mate, and set your intention to attract someone into your life who appreciates you and has those qualities. Finally, what's good for the goose is good for the gander, so practice being what you want to attract. If you want someone who is kind, gentle, loving, intelligent, responsible, well groomed, etc., then be all of those things yourself. Like attracts like and you get what you want by giving it to someone else.

I am all about resources that help you ask yourself the powerful questions that lead you to the right choices in life. When a list just blankly tells you what you should value and whether a girl is a keeper, you should keep looking inside yourself, because the answer isn't on someone else's list. It's on your list, and that list may still be inside you, but it's there. You have to cultivate it.

We are all perfect for someone, and probably more than just one someone. Keep being the best you that you can be and that special someone will find you. If the person isn't right for you, you know it and just say "next!"